The simple way forward is of course to write down this stuff down, so I resolved to put pen to paper and write up a set of 'House Rules' that we could all agree on.
My efforts can be downloaded at this link (currently at version 8-4-0), and reflect our collective thinking after playing some 75+ games. (note, the latest version can always been found here)
If you have any questions or suggestions for improvements, feel free to post them here :)
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